Let’s get real—sex is supposed to be enjoyable. But for so many women in Cyprus and around the world, it can be anything but that. Experiencing pain during sex is actually quite common, even though it’s rarely talked about. And if there is one thing we feel strongly about at Wiggle, it's talking and having difficult conversations.
Painful sex can feel like a sharp sting, a dull ache, or just general discomfort that makes intimacy far less enjoyable than it should be. The good news is, if you’re dealing with it, you’re not alone—and there are things you can do.
Why Does Sex Hurt?
Painful sex can have a range of causes, both physical and mental. Physically, issues like dryness (maybe you’re not producing enough natural lubrication) or specific medical conditions like endometriosis, vaginismus, or pelvic inflammatory disease can play a big role. Hormonal changes, especially after childbirth or during menopause, can also cause vaginal dryness and make things feel uncomfortable.
But pain isn’t always physical—it can be a reflection of our mental health. Stress, anxiety, and past traumas can contribute to how we experience intimacy. If you’re feeling anxious, it’s no surprise your body might respond by tightening up, which can make sex painful. Think of it like this: if you’re not feeling relaxed and safe, your body isn’t going to be able to let go and enjoy the moment.
When to Get Help
Occasional discomfort is one thing, but if you're feeling pain consistently or the pain is increasing in intensity, it’s time to check in with a professional. A gynecologist can help rule out any underlying health issues or you could look at visiting a specialist like a pelvic floor therapist. Pain during sex is definitely not something you should have to “just live with,” so find help if you feel you need it.
Ways to Overcome Painful Sex
If you’re ready to make sex feel better, here are some steps to try:
Lubricate, lubricate, lubricate: Lube is an essential piece of the puzzle for anyone, but especially if you suffer from dryness or experience pain during sex. Look for water-based or silicone options on Wiggle, and don’t be shy about using as much as you need.
Explore solo: A solo Wiggle is essential, masturbation can be a great way to learn about what feels good and what doesn’t, without the pressure of being with a partner. Understanding your body and preferences is empowering!
Switch it up: Different positions affect how things feel internally, so experimenting with new ones can sometimes reduce discomfort.
Breathe and relax: Breathwork might sound simple, but it can really help you feel more grounded and relaxed, which will help both mind and body stay open.
Strengthen with kegels: Kegel exercises can help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which can improve control and make intimacy more comfortable. And if you’re feeling up for it, a pelvic floor therapist can guide you through more targeted exercises to help with pain.
Remember, you deserve to feel comfortable and confident in your body, and painful sex needn't be something you put up with. There are solutions to regain a pleasurable intimate experience and find your Wiggle again!
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