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Find Your Wiggle: Getting started with Self-Pleasure

Maybe masturbation has never been your thing; does it feel taboo or just unusual to explore your own body? Maybe you don’t know how to get started. Well, we have some ideas on getting started with self-love.

A women sliding her fingers under her underwear touching her skin

Mood is important

Create a comfortable and relaxing environment free from distractions. Switch down to softer lighting, create a masturbation playlist that can help get your mind and body in the mood, light candles, and spray room mists or light scented candles to enhance the ambiance. and trigger a connection through all senses.


Try lube

Lubrication can reduce friction and enhance sensations during masturbation. Opt for water-based or silicone-based lubricants for smooth and pleasurable experiences. 

Test out toys

Incorporating sex toys into your solo play can add variety and intensity to your experience. Start with beginner-friendly toys such as bullets or dildos and discover what you like the most. 

Simple sensations

Don’t rush, explore different touches and strokes that feel pleasurable to you. Pay attention to areas of heightened sensitivity and experiment with varying pressure and speed. 

Use your imagination

Masturbation is a very intimate and personal thing. Use your imagination and indulge in fantasies or erotic thoughts that turn you on. Fantasizing can heighten arousal and intensify orgasms.

Embracing self-pleasure means you value your wellbeing, your body, and your pleasure. It reinforces the notion that our bodies are worthy of pleasure and deserving of care. By prioritizing our own satisfaction, we cultivate a deeper connection with ourselves and nurture a positive relationship with our sexuality.

Moreover, incorporating masturbation into our self-care routines can help combat feelings of shame or guilt surrounding our bodies and sexuality. It's essential to recognize that self-pleasure is a natural and healthy aspect of human sexuality, and there's no shame in enjoying it. Plus it helps you understand what you like, and importantly, what you don’t! 

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