Find Your Wiggle: Intimacy & Pleasure in Later Life

We’re happy to leave plenty of things behind as we get older. Uncomfortable shoes. Caring quite so much about what everyone thinks. Staying out until 3 am simply because somebody says, “one more?”

Pleasure, however, does not need to be one of them. Keep reading about intimacy and pleasure in later life.

Your Body Changes. Your Pleasure Can Too.

Hormonal changes, menopause, medications, health conditions and the natural ageing process can affect things such as desire, vaginal lubrication, erections and physical comfort.

That doesn’t automatically mean the end of intimacy, but adapting how you approach it. 

More time, more communication, lubricant, different positions or exploring other kinds of touch can all become part of the picture. And if something is painful, persistent or concerning, it’s worth discussing with a healthcare professional rather than simply accepting discomfort as “part of getting older”.

Intimacy Doesn’t Have One Definition

Here’s something we should probably learn much earlier in life: sex doesn’t have to follow a script. Kissing counts. Massage counts. Touch counts. Masturbation counts. Lying together with absolutely nowhere else to be counts.

Taking penetration or orgasm off the compulsory checklist can sometimes create room to discover what actually feels good now, rather than trying to recreate what felt good 20 years ago.

Solo Pleasure Is Still Self-Care

Being single, widowed, divorced or simply wanting private time doesn’t remove your right to pleasure.

Solo exploration can be a way to reconnect with a changing body and discover what kinds of pressure, pace and stimulation feel comfortable today.

If you want to introduce a product, simplicity can be your friend. A straightforward vibrator or personal massager with easy controls may feel more approachable than something with endless features. 

Talk About What Has Changed

For long-term couples, one of the biggest barriers may not be physical at all. It’s talking about it. Bodies change together, but partners don’t necessarily know what the other person is experiencing. Try replacing “we don’t do that anymore” with “what feels good for us now?”

That’s a very different conversation.

It leaves room for affection, humour, experimentation and connection without making anyone feel as though they have failed some invisible test.

Find Your Wiggle, At Every Age

At Wiggle, we talk a lot about discovering what makes you wiggle. That idea doesn’t belong exclusively to twenty- and thirty-somethings. Wiggle describes itself as a female-focused space to explore pleasure and wellness — and that exploration can continue throughout life. 

Find Your Wiggle, at every age.

This article provides general sexual-wellness information and is not medical advice. If you experience persistent pain, sudden changes in sexual function or other symptoms that concern you, speak with an appropriate healthcare professional.

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